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Making The Mystical TypicalArchive for September, 2009
Smile
“I want things to change but I don’t want to change.”
That’s what I hear from people not only with my work, but with people I know. Most people complain that their life is lacking something, but are unwilling to think or do something different.
The one subject that I hear the most often is women want to attract a man for a relationship and yet they are unwilling to do what it takes to attract dates. Now, I understand and am fully aware that some people may not know how to go about it.
A woman I know who is smart, cute, athletic, interesting and nice told me she has had over 1000 hits on an internet dating site. She has had several dates and still not in a relationship. I asked her what she thought was going on? Her response, and I kid you not, was that she didn’t want to wear heels to impress a man. She wanted to be accepted for who she was. I understand this, but heels are not going to attract the man. A simple change that anyone can do is SMILE.
I noticed she doesn’t do much of that. I smile all the time and people flock to me. Who wouldn’t want to talk to the smiling woman? It’s like a magnet. I’m smiling away enjoying life and people comment or they ask me something. I always have someone to talk to. Smiling works. Smiling is something everyone can do. It’s contagious. Try it, it’s free!
No one has to change to be accepted. I don’t think that’s the issue here. I think put on a smile and see what happens. I’d love to hear what your experience is. Go out and give it a try. Smile in the grocery. Smile on the bus. Smile as you drive your car. Smile everywhere you go. Smiles everyone, smiles!
Feel Better Toolbox
I am a big believer in what you focus on, expands in your life. In another words, what you put your attention to, becomes your reality. I have been focusing on something that is quickly starting to manifest in my reality. The flu.
However, yesterday, I started to notice feeling worn out, headache, little fevers, chills and overall malaise.
Since I have learned that if I continue to focus on that, it will become my reality, I chose to relax, nap, drink fluids, pump the vitamins C and D and eat healthy. I watched some TV that makes me smile and excites me and off to bed I went. Before the lights went out, I used some EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) to tap out the anxieties and fears that I took on about the flu.
Changing my focus to wellness and health, I feel 100% better. I am ready to greet the day, and the rest of the week feeling healthy and rejuvenated. Keeping my focus on wellness is creating a different reality. Deliberately choosing to focus on wellness, my nutrition, rest and wellbeing has become the forefront of my experience.
Today, be mindful of what you are paying attention to. If its something that isn’t desirable, gently change your attention to something that is. I have a “toolbox” that helps me change my focus. Here are a few ideas that help me to feel better and create a better reality.
Friends are my first line of assistance. I call a friend that can help me shift my attention. A friend can be loving and nonjudgmental in supporting you in shifting your focus from negativity to a more positive perspective.
Secondly, essential oils are a favorite in helping me shift my mood. I pick oils that uplift or comfort. My favorite scents are Geranium or Lavender. Scents help me to feel better nearly instantly.
A funny or inspirational Youtube video can be an added pick me up. Nothing is more effective than taking a couple minutes to laugh or be inspired. When you feel good you can shift your focus quickly.
We all experience things in our lives that don’t feel great. Our minds have the amazing power to create a different reality just from shifting our thoughts about it. I have experienced time and again how quickly things change. Today, I am experiencing good health and emotional wellbeing. I know I have the power to be well and stay well.
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I’m sorry
I was reading a blog today and the author suggested a meditation where you bring all your pain to God. In the meditation, I asked my guides to bring me to God.
Remember the movie Wizard of Oz? Well, this is where my version of God lives. In Emerald City where the big flaming head is. I entered this area fully aware that my God has a great sense of humor. I allowed myself to go through my meditation with this imagery present. God was the ball of fire and asked me in that big booming voice “why are you here?” I honestly felt nervous. I said “I am here to present my pain to you. You created me, the pain and all the crap that I carry around with me.” I am pretty much going with it. God laughed. Not the big booming laugh, but the little man behind the curtain laugh. Gentle, loving, not at all angry with me.
“Here” he said. “Pull up a bean bag chair.” I did. God is funny. He had one of those little chairs that are made for little people. Munchkins. I had to laugh. God was a little person. Lovingly, he procured hot chocolate with 2 marshmallows. You know, out of thin air. God is amazing that way. He asked if that was ok or if I preferred green tea. We both laughed knowing that chocolate is food for the soul.
He asked me what I was carrying. I had a sack like the ones hobos carry. I untied it and laid it out between us on a red bandana. He was genuinely curious about the things I presented. He asked what was on my mind? Suddenly, in my meditation, I became emotional. I showed him the items represented. Wedding rings, a picture of my mother, former lovers and in my mind I felt these were huge weights that I had been hauling around. Pain of growing up, being hurt, events that turned into issues. Issues that turned into patterns. Patterns that continued to hurt and that I wanted to heal.
I told God that I was angry and sad and tired of all of this crap. God picked up the items and held them. I told him about each of them and he looked at me. He said nothing but took it all in, my sadness, anger and frustration. God is a good listener. When I was finished with my rant, he looked at me, took my hand and said “I’m sorry.” He apologized for all the defects in my life and asked if I could forgive him? I looked at him and it seemed his face changed. I saw myself. I saw the most loving version of me. I whispered “yes.” Suddenly, my tears flowed, but not from the pain, but from the love of it all. I was and still am astounded that a simple meditation could help me understand that God didn’t make a mistake nor did I, but that a genuine apology helps heal instantly.
I learned that the God within is love personified. Love sometimes means having to say you’re sorry.
